STINGY BF INSISTS ON USING GF’S CAR, SAYS LOST MONEY BUT GOT MONEY
My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and since then he has never owned a car. I have one and he basically uses my car for things like grocery shopping, seeing friends, hiking, appointments, etc. He shares gas with me but I pay for insurance, maintenance, etc. He probably uses the car as much as I do at least 3-4 days a week but he refuses to have his own. I had many discussions about him getting his own car, but he made it clear that he thought the cars were a waste of money and he didn’t want to pay for one.
I lived quite close to him and he wanted me to continue living in my nearby apartment so he could have access to my car. That’s not what he said, but that’s the impression I got. I moved to a less expensive apartment 10 minutes by car or 45 minutes by public transport. I did it partly for the cheaper rent but partly to keep him from using my car.
He was upset because he couldn’t use my car anymore and asked me to give him my car from Friday to Sunday so he could continue to use it. I said no and he said I had to drive to visit him every time because it took too long on the bus and I had a car so I could visit him more easily. I told him I would only visit him once he made the effort to visit me once because I felt he would get used to me giving in to whatever he wanted (like letting him use my car).
After 4 months of this, he was frustrated enough to buy his own car, but he complains it’s a waste of money. By the way, he’s not poor, it’s actually an account that makes a lot of money, he just hates spending it. He called me an asshole for not driving to visit him and forcing him to buy a car because the bus takes too long.
Here’s what netizens think:
- Walk away from the relationship
- Your car matters more to him than you
- Yeah, I feel like he mainly uses it as a car. They need more communication but why should she pay for a car he uses 50% of the time because he doesn’t want to buy one because he is so stingy with his money. And he always talked about it, it didn’t make him realize how much he relied on his car.